M is for Masturbate

 

They say that four out of five men admit to masturbating. And the fifth is a liar.

Actually, that old joke is not far from the truth. Research has found that among Ugandan adolescents aged 14–17, around 74% of males and 48% of females masturbate.

Among older adults, roughly 63% of men and 32% of women between 57 and 64 years of age masturbate.

Masturbation, as you no doubt know, is when an individual stimulates his or her genitals for sexual pleasure, which may or may not lead to orgasm. It’s a normal and healthy sexual activity with no adverse side effects.

Back in Victorian times, masturbation was called “onanism, named for the biblical character Onan. God, so the Bible says, took the life of Onan when he “wasted his seed on the ground” in order not to give offspring to his brother. Apparently that really pissed God off, and he smote the filthy seed-waster. Hey, even for God, imposing the death penalty for masturbation seems a bit harsh, don’t you think?

Masturbation was also referred to back then as “self-pollution” and it was thought to drain your energy and make you sick. There were even some really bizarre anti-masturbatory devices for both men and women.

3BEAC20E-986C-42E1-B2C7-4BDAACA49B7FMany religions frown on masturbation. In fact, until the 19th century, the Catholic Church believed that sperm were “little homunculi, miniature people,” and for that reason, male masturbation was sometimes called homicide. I swear I am not making that up.

We’ve come a long way since the 19th century, right?

Well, maybe not. And that’s why I chose to write about masturbation for today.

A proposed bill in Texas that would impose a fine for male masturbation is making its way through the state’s legislature.

Texas House Bill 4260, called the “Man’s Right to Know Act,” would punish male masturbation with a $100 fine, and require men who want Viagra to be subject to a rectal exam.

The bill calls “masturbatory emissions” an “act against an unborn child, and failing to preserve the sanctity of life.”

Filed in 2018 by Texas Democratic legislator Jessica Farrar, the bill was referred to the House State Affairs Committee last week.

By focusing on male masturbation, the proposed legislation is an obvious attempt to satirize and to draw attention to the unreasonable and dangerous policy proposals concerning women’s reproductive freedom coming from the Republican Party.

Farrar, a vocal abortion rights activist with a long record of opposing legislation in Texas hostile to women’s reproductive freedom, said, “A lot of people find the bill funny. What’s not funny are the obstacles that Texas women face every day that were placed there by male legislators, making it very difficult for women to access healthcare.”

I am fairly confident that those male legislators in the Texas State House are less inclined to pass such a bill than they have been to pass bills that restrict women’s sexual freedoms. But in today’s Trump America, you never can be certain.

And with that, I’m going to end this post with one piece of advice: go ahead and give yourself a hand but be ready for the circumstances.

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Sex is a Dirty Word

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This, That, and The Other

546881D0-E338-4979-AE1D-C5F776C3B257You may have already heard that there is a proposal being floated at the U.S. State Department that could prohibit American diplomats from using the phrases “sexual and reproductive health” and “comprehensive sexuality education.”

Instead of “sexual and reproductive health” and “comprehensive sexuality education,” the proposal is that U.S. officials would be instructed to use phrases like “reproduction and the related health services” in official communications.

This proposal is being pushed by a handful of conservative political appointees at the State Department and other agencies. Abandoning the use of the word “sex” would be a symbolic move that aligns with other Trump administration efforts to reduce funding for, and focus on, women’s reproductive issues — especially anything related to abortion.

The problem appears to be that saying “sex” makes Trump’s far-right Republican supporters feel all sad and uncomfortable inside.

I guess that for the 2020 election, Trump is going to…

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Abortion stigma causing more harm than good

 

Every year over 40 million women in the world have an abortion, making it one of the most common and safe medical procedures. Yet it is still loaded with strong social stigma expressed in negative attitudes and secrecy by both women who get abortions and clinicians involved in the process.

The legal status of abortion in Uganda is unclear because it provides for some exceptions while criminalizing the procedure in most cases. This leaves people in confusion hence one of the main reasons as to why abortion stigma is still high in Uganda today.

Abortion stigma is a negative attribute ascribed to women who seek to terminate a pregnancy that marks them, internally or externally, as inferior to ideals of womanhood. Abortion stigma is experienced by women seeking abortion services and by abortion providers in a range of legal contexts in Uganda.

Abortion stigma is one of the main barriers to women seeking termination of unwanted pregnancy and a challenge to abortion service providers.

This stigma translates into shame and silence for women and into marginalization for providers, and creates or perpetuates myths and misunderstandings about abortion. And the stigma imposed on women and girls who carry out abortion is the main reason as to why there are so many abortion complications and deaths in Uganda as the women try to carry out abortions in secrecy. Why decide to see the wrong side of the procedure? We could take abortion as a choice; a mother deciding what’s best for her child. We have seen instances where a mother goes through with a pregnancy and after giving birth dumps the baby in a pit latrine. Of what use is it? The torture, the trauma that such a mother goes through and what about the baby? This is worse than an abortion.

Abortion stigma is erroneous and egocentric and it has hurt so many women. People who stigmatize abortion probably have no idea of what harm they cause.

Stigma manifests differently depending on legal frameworks, religious beliefs, and social and cultural contexts.

Stigma can be classified into three main manifestations:

1) perceived stigma, which are ideas about what others may think about abortion and about what could happen if their own experience is made public (rejection by the family or partner, impaired social relationships, loss of friendships, criticism, abuse, and isolation);

2) Experienced stigma, which are actual acts of discrimination, harassment, and aggression by others; and

3) Internalized stigma, which refers to the materialization of the two previous forms in feelings of guilt, shame, anxiety, or other negative ideas

In the struggle to shun abortion stigma, some have carried out abortion procedures by themselves and most of such people have been found in their small rooms dead or at the verge of dying. They often bleed to death or get permanent complications. Dangerous nonsurgical instruments like forks and hangers have been used in the bid to eliminate pregnancies in secrecy, other deadly ways that have been used include overdose of pills, drinking washing detergent omo in particular, consuming opium, throwing themselves of the staircase, starvation and so many other insane procedures.

Abortion stigma should stop because it has done more harm than good. The more stigmas these young girls and women observe the more the chances of them practicing unsafe abortion and the end results are absurd.

 

IS ABORTION SAFE OR UNSAFE?

Abortion in Uganda is still considered illegal unless performed by a doctor who believes pregnancy places the woman’s life at risk. The Ugandan Ministry of Health estimates that as of 2008, 26% of all maternal deaths result from abortion complications this is aggravated by legal, socioeconomic, and geographic barriers to safe abortion, which compels women to use unsafe abortion methods and deter them from seeking post-abortion medical care. Unsafe abortion to be specific is the major cause of deaths in women and young girls. Many young girls panic when they conceive and they don’t mind about anything else apart from terminating the pregnancy and this has cost so many girls their lives or complications like fistula.

Elena Prada a consultant with Guttmacher institute says that Close to one third of Ugandan women who have abortions each year are admitted to health facilities for complications resulting from unsafe abortions and many other women who experience complications do not get the care they need.

Given that most abortions result from unintended pregnancies, improving family planning services is critical to reducing the incidence of unsafe abortion. In particular, contraceptive counseling should be strengthened to address high rates of method discontinuation and women’s concerns about side effects. Contraceptive methods should be taught to women and young women that they know how to prevent unwanted pregnancies as prevention is better than cure.

Family planning services should provide accurate information on the side effects of different methods. Further, recommend that family planning services provide a full range of modern contraceptive methods, including long-acting reversible methods such as IUDs and implants, so women can choose whichever method works best for them.

Most women in Uganda practice unsafe abortion due to the stigma attached to those who carry out abortions so this forces them to hide away and carry out unsafe abortions with unqualified doctors and this has increased the rate of abortion complications in Uganda.

Let us stop abortion stigma for better and safe abortion methods this is an easy way to stop unsafe abortions and in the long run save the lives of so many Women and girls.

LETS TALK SEX TONIGHT!!!

                                 story by Lilian Nansubuga

Sex education the process of acquiring information and forming attitudes and beliefs about sex, sexual identity, relationships and intimacy. Sex education is also about developing young people’s skills so that they make informed choices about their behavior, and feel confident and competent about acting on these choices. 

Sex education has been one of the abandoned topics in school. A student is so shy to even say out the word. This is all because of the mentality the attain from schools. I remember how excited I was to learn about reproductive education as a topic in primary six. But when I look back now, there is so much I was not taught simply because the teacher tackled just a 10% of what they should have taught me. So many youths especially in Uganda do not have a clue about reproductive and sexual health. Most of the early pregnancies registered in Uganda are due to ignorance. The youths do not know how to use contraceptives, most of them are naive. I was shocked when a girl above 24 years still believed in myths. She boldly explained to me how bending on your knees immediately after sex can help you to prevent conception. It was a shock and such an absurd idea. 

Schools and parents need to provide such knowledge to the young people it is everyone’s right to sex education. Parents need to stop being shy about such topics because it is part of life. Or if they totally can’t provide the knowledge themselves they could help and enroll their children in sex education workshops because it would be absurd for a child to conceive or worse catch the sexually transmitted diseases out of ignorance yet there is something they could have done about it.

There are 35 states that have laws that allow parents to opt their children out of sex education. Even worse, 3 states make parents opt their children into sex education. You can’t opt your children in or out of math. But when it comes to sex education, one of the most important things you can learn in school, a parent can take their kid out for no reason at all. I am all for religious freedom, but just because you or your religion values abstinence doesn’t mean your kids will too. Its important teens get all the information they can, and then make a decision about their own values. Don’t let religion or family values be a reason to let students be taken out of sexual health education. Don’t let your morals obstruct your kid’s learning. 

 Even if you don’t plan to be sexually active, that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t learn about sex, anatomy, contraceptives, and the other topics that make up sex education. Knowledge is for everyone, and sex education shouldn’t be limited to certain people because of their parents’ views. Access to comprehensive, medically accurate sex education is a human right. Sex education is important. It’s been proven time and time again. We know students who receive formal sex education in schools are shown to first have sexual intercourse later than students who have not had sex education. Sex education does not encourage teenagers to have sex, it does quite the opposite.  

Every teenager should have sex education incorporated into their schooling. It shouldn’t be opt-in or opt-out but mandatory. Why should parents be able to opt their children in or out of a subject that they’ll need later in life, one way or another? Sex education should be mandatory, comprehensive, medically accurate, and taught throughout student’s school years, just like math. It’s been shown to help students, not hurt. Not only is having access to sex education that is not only comprehensive but medically accurate a human right; it’s our fundamental duty as a society to educate the next generation. Currently, we are failing.  

 Parents and teachers need to wake up and help the young people. Sex education is one of the ways to prevent early pregnancies and reduce the risk of spreading sexually transmitted diseases especially the incurable ones like HIV/AIDS.

 

 

 

Domestic Violence in Prison, Police and Army Barracks

A JOURNEY WITH ONE STEP

Domestic Violence is a very big issue with in Ugandan Barracks ie Prison, Police and Army, though much focus has never been put on them because they think, they are the best in keeping and following the Ugandan law

Domestic violence, or family violence, is violent, abusive or intimidating behavior in a relationship. There are many types of domestic violence, including social, physical, sexual and emotional. If you’re being subjected to domestic violence

The person who wrote, “it takes a strong Woman to an Officer” thought a lot about this. Officers are beautiful individuals but others spoil the codes and conduct because of the way they violate women and children’s rights.

Have you had experience growing up in a Barrack community? Do You think Officers are perpetrators of Domestic violence ?, then listen, there is high violation of women rights and yet, these are the same people who keep and…

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